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Adjust your expectations before setting out. The outcome can fall short of your ideal and still count as success.<\/h1>\n

BY\u00a0FAISAL HOQUE<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

Sure, you’ve set some New Year’s resolutions and told yourself this is going to be the year when you actually follow through with them. But more often than not, we fail, but not because the goals we set are too ambitious to achieve.<\/p>\n

Instead, it’s often because we haven’t taken the time to adjust our mind-sets and mental habits in ways that help us make significant, lasting changes. And sometimes that comes down to\u00a0avoiding<\/em>\u00a0negative patterns of thinking in addition to adopting more positive ones. Here are six such mental adjustments to help you start the year off right.<\/p>\n

<\/a>1. STOP FEARING FAILURE<\/h4>\n

Before we even set out on a new undertaking, many of us are beset by doubts about our ability. We’re apprehensive and hesitant to try something different than what we’ve grown used to doing.<\/p>\n

This is pretty normal. Risk is something we as humans have evolved to detect and consider before making big decisions, and much of the time, it serves us well. But occasionally it furnishes us with excuses to put off doing something meaningful. A voice in our head says, “I don\u2019t have the time or the money,” “I’m not sure I can pull this off,” or “Not right now. I’ll come back to this in a few months.”<\/p>\n

Self-sabotage is any kind of behavior or way of thinking that keeps from going after our most ambitious goals. And it originates in a fear of failure. We need to confront that anxiety before setting off on any major undertaking, but that doesn’t mean conquering it altogether.<\/p>\n

Simply recognize that you might indeed fail. It’s okay\u2014and in fact important\u2014to know your odds of success, but you can’t let them overwhelm you before getting started.<\/p>\n

Related:<\/strong>\u00a07 Methods To Overcome Your Fear of Failure<\/em><\/a><\/p>\n

<\/a>2. GET A HANDLE ON TOXIC EMOTIONS<\/h4>\n

Emotions are a natural part of being a human, and controlling them doesn\u2019t mean becoming an android. But how well we manage what we’re feeling affects not just our own performance but our interactions with others. We’ve all been around someone who leaves you feeling exhausted and drained. Chances are you don’t like working with them.<\/p>\n

EMOTIONS ARE A NATURAL PART OF BEING A HUMAN, AND CONTROLLING THEM DOESN\u2019T MEAN BECOMING AN ANDROID.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Keep in mind that you’ll probably need to work with others in some form or another in order to achieve what you’ve set your sights on. If you become that kind of person, you’ll chase away potential collaborators, mentors, partners, and others. Cultivate an attitude that attracts support rather than repels it.<\/p>\n

By the same token, guard against the toxic emotions that others may bring into your orbit. That takes intentional and constant effort. The people we surround ourselves with can make the difference between failure and success just as much as our own emotional self-control can.<\/p>\n

Related:<\/strong>\u00a0Slay The Emotional Vampires That Are Holding You Back<\/em><\/a><\/p>\n

<\/a>3. QUIT TRYING TO PLEASE EVERYONE<\/h4>\n

Trying to please everyone is like trying to fit the entire ocean into a cup; it\u2019s impossible. Whatever good we do, and however good we become, people who think little of our plans or achievements will always show up and let us know about it.<\/p>\n

Before we worry about what others think, we need to commit to love and accept ourselves. If that sounds like a self-help bromide, it’s nevertheless one of deep practical importance. If we’re unhappy with ourselves, that self-reproach trickles into all of our relationships, our work, our beliefs, and our future.<\/p>\n

There are three components of becoming more authentic and\u00a0resilient through self-acceptance<\/a>:<\/p>\n